Caz Killjoy

Writer, Speaker, & Advocate

focusing on disability and sexuality

metropolitan Washington, DC area

last updated July 1, 2021

With more than twenty years of firsthand experience with disability and a lifetime of interest in sexuality, I am currently doing independent research in the combined fields of sexuality and disability with the intent to develop a career in this critical intersection of taboo topics. I am an engaging writer and a charismatic speaker, with over fifteen years of experience covering disability, sexuality, and kyriarchy from a social justice-oriented perspective.

Professional Experience

Freelancer pertaining to disability and sexuality
advocate, consultant, educator, and writer
2016 – Present

Ongoing Projects

Currently Available Workshops

  • Accessing Disabled Pleasure.
  • Creating the Disability and Sexuality Access Network: An Open Discussion and Brainstorming Workshop.
  • Detoured: A How-to Guide to Life for Newly Acquired Disability and Chronic Illness.
  • Disability and Consent: You (Shouldn’t) Have (to Fight for) the Right to Autonomy.
  • “Dress Sexy At My Funeral:” Final Arrangement Preparedness For Everything From Non-Monogamy to Sex Work.
  • “Fuck The Pain Away:” Kink as Chronic Pain Management.
  • “Hello to you out there in Normal Land:” An Introduction To Disability Culture.
  • “It’s Getting Hot In Here”: Climate Change And Your Sex Life.
  • “My Neck, My Back, My Pussy and My Crack:” Sex with Ehlers-Danlos.
  • Making It More Accessible: A Guide for Greater Inclusion.
  • Making It More Accessible: A Guide for Event Management.
  • Making It More Accessible: A Guide for Presenters.
  • Playing It Safe(r): Technological Security For A Post-FOSTA World.
  • Playing with Disability: Adapting Play for People with Disabilities and Our Partners.
  • The Radical Possibilities of Pleasure-Pain: Sadomasochism in Context, or Why It’s So Damned Complicated When Pain Feels Good.
  • “Trying to Kill M.E.:” Non-monogamy When Immuno-compromised.

Appearances

guest lectured

  • Fuck The Pain Away: Kink as Chronic Pain Management. (May 11, 2021.)
  • Intersectionality of sex & disability. (University of Tennessee, Chattanooga. March 29, 2021.)
  • Making Your Virtual Teaching More Accessible, pt 4: Bonus class on accessibility. (Sex Geek Conservatory. December 28, 2020.)
  • Making Your Virtual Teaching More Accessible, pt 3: Hot Seats & Coaching. (Sex Geek Conservatory. December 17, 2020.)
  • Making Your Virtual Teaching More Accessible, pt 2: Technical Application. (Sex Geek Conservatory. December 10, 2020.)
  • Making Your Virtual Teaching More Accessible, pt. 1: Accessible Communication and What It Solves. (Sex Geek Conservatory. December 3, 2020.)
  • Making Your Online Presentations Accessible. (Everyone Deserves Sex Ed‘s Sex Educator Master Class Series. November 25, 2020.)
  • “Dress Sexy At My Funeral”: Final Arrangement Preparedness For Sex-Positive People. (Shadows and Light Festival. September of 2020.)
  • Playing with Disability – Modifying Play for Folks with Disabilities and Chronic Pain. (Shadows and Light Festival. September of 2020.)
  • Accessing Disabled Pleasure. (The CSPH. September of 2020.)
  • Playing It Safe(r): Better Practices for Technological Security. (September of 2020.)
  • Making Presentations More Accessible. (September of 2020.)
  • Accessing Disabled Pleasure. (Erotic Intimacy Festival. July of 2020.)
  • Making It More Accessible: A Guide for Greater Inclusion. (Virtual Facilitators Toolbox. June of 2020.)
  • Tools for Sex Geeks Who ≠ Tech Nerds. (Zoom for private group. May of 2020.)
  • The State of Disability & Pleasure. (The Disability and Sexuality Access Network. May 6, 2020.)
  • Making Way for Disabled Sex Educators. (Tufts University’s Sex & Accessibility Symposium. February 20, 2020.)
  • Playing with Disability: Adapting Play for People with Disabilities and Our Partners. (Shiver. February of 2020.)
  • Making It More Accessible: A Guide for Presenters. (Ducky Doolittle’s Skill Share Series. October of 2019.)
  • Playing with Disability – Adapting Play for People with Disabilities and Our Partners. (Stony Brook University TNG. May of 2019.)
  • Disability and Kink; Crip Time and Spoon Theory; Navigating Multiple Services While Multiply Disabled. (Widener University. March of 2017.)
  • Chronic Pain, Disability, Sex, and Kink. (Widener University. March of 2016.)

panelist

  • Disability and Sex for Providers. (Widener University. March of 2017.)
  • Educating Future Doctors About the Realities of Disability. (Georgetown University School of Medicine. November of 2016.)
  • Sex and Disability for Medical Students. (George Washington University. August of 2015.)
  • Rare Disease Patient Focus Group. (National Institutes of Health. January of 2013.)

storytelling

publications

interviews, video

interviews, print

radio

past workshops

  • Sex and Sexuality-Based Violence: A Conversation. (Visions in Feminism Conference, 2002.)
    a facilitated conversation
    Conversation topics include but are not limited to: GLBTQ issues, intimate partner violence, violence against women, violence against sex workers, harassment of women perceived to be sexually promiscuous, rape, and sadomasochism. Discussion will cover the causes of these acts of violence, personal experiences, the nature of the crimes or consensual acts, the emotional / physical / legal results of the acts and any possible consequences, etc.
  • Women and Self-Inflicted Violence Workshop. (Visions in Feminism Conference, 2002.)
    co-panel with Erica Smith and Sara Plourde
    In an age where social, familial and relationship standards, expectations and attitudes differ between extremes, more and more people are suffering from crippling low self-esteem and self-worth. Share your experiences, hear from others and learn some of the causes, symptoms, and techniques to fight one of the biggest personal problems among women today – self-inflicted violence.

testimonials

Testimonials are available here.