Writer, Speaker, & Advocate
focusing on disability and sexuality
metropolitan Washington, DC area
last updated July 1, 2021
With more than twenty years of firsthand experience with disability and a lifetime of interest in sexuality, I am currently doing independent research in the combined fields of sexuality and disability with the intent to develop a career in this critical intersection of taboo topics. I am an engaging writer and a charismatic speaker, with over fifteen years of experience covering disability, sexuality, and kyriarchy from a social justice-oriented perspective.
Freelancer pertaining to disability and sexuality
advocate, consultant, educator, and writer
2016 – Present
- The Disability and Sexuality Access Network (DASANetwork), an education and advocacy organization for people who are passionate about disability, sex, and sexuality.
- Playing it safe(r): an accessible technology security guide for a post-FOSTA / SESTA / CLOUD world.
- Resource Index for Accountability Work for folks who are interested in restorative and/or transformative justice.
Currently Available Workshops
- Accessing Disabled Pleasure.
- Creating the Disability and Sexuality Access Network: An Open Discussion and Brainstorming Workshop.
- Detoured: A How-to Guide to Life for Newly Acquired Disability and Chronic Illness.
- Disability and Consent: You (Shouldn’t) Have (to Fight for) the Right to Autonomy.
- “Dress Sexy At My Funeral:” Final Arrangement Preparedness For Everything From Non-Monogamy to Sex Work.
- “Fuck The Pain Away:” Kink as Chronic Pain Management.
- “Hello to you out there in Normal Land:” An Introduction To Disability Culture.
- “It’s Getting Hot In Here”: Climate Change And Your Sex Life.
- “My Neck, My Back, My Pussy and My Crack:” Sex with Ehlers-Danlos.
- Making It More Accessible: A Guide for Greater Inclusion.
- Making It More Accessible: A Guide for Event Management.
- Making It More Accessible: A Guide for Presenters.
- Playing It Safe(r): Technological Security For A Post-FOSTA World.
- Playing with Disability: Adapting Play for People with Disabilities and Our Partners.
- The Radical Possibilities of Pleasure-Pain: Sadomasochism in Context, or Why It’s So Damned Complicated When Pain Feels Good.
- “Trying to Kill M.E.:” Non-monogamy When Immuno-compromised.
- Fuck The Pain Away: Kink as Chronic Pain Management. (May 11, 2021.)
- Intersectionality of sex & disability. (University of Tennessee, Chattanooga. March 29, 2021.)
- Making Your Virtual Teaching More Accessible, pt 4: Bonus class on accessibility. (Sex Geek Conservatory. December 28, 2020.)
- Making Your Virtual Teaching More Accessible, pt 3: Hot Seats & Coaching. (Sex Geek Conservatory. December 17, 2020.)
- Making Your Virtual Teaching More Accessible, pt 2: Technical Application. (Sex Geek Conservatory. December 10, 2020.)
- Making Your Virtual Teaching More Accessible, pt. 1: Accessible Communication and What It Solves. (Sex Geek Conservatory. December 3, 2020.)
- Making Your Online Presentations Accessible. (Everyone Deserves Sex Ed‘s Sex Educator Master Class Series. November 25, 2020.)
- “Dress Sexy At My Funeral”: Final Arrangement Preparedness For Sex-Positive People. (Shadows and Light Festival. September of 2020.)
- Playing with Disability – Modifying Play for Folks with Disabilities and Chronic Pain. (Shadows and Light Festival. September of 2020.)
- Accessing Disabled Pleasure. (The CSPH. September of 2020.)
- Playing It Safe(r): Better Practices for Technological Security. (September of 2020.)
- Making Presentations More Accessible. (September of 2020.)
- Accessing Disabled Pleasure. (Erotic Intimacy Festival. July of 2020.)
- Making It More Accessible: A Guide for Greater Inclusion. (Virtual Facilitators Toolbox. June of 2020.)
- Tools for Sex Geeks Who ≠ Tech Nerds. (Zoom for private group. May of 2020.)
- The State of Disability & Pleasure. (The Disability and Sexuality Access Network. May 6, 2020.)
- Making Way for Disabled Sex Educators. (Tufts University’s Sex & Accessibility Symposium. February 20, 2020.)
- Playing with Disability: Adapting Play for People with Disabilities and Our Partners. (Shiver. February of 2020.)
- Making It More Accessible: A Guide for Presenters. (Ducky Doolittle’s Skill Share Series. October of 2019.)
- Playing with Disability – Adapting Play for People with Disabilities and Our Partners. (Stony Brook University TNG. May of 2019.)
- Disability and Kink; Crip Time and Spoon Theory; Navigating Multiple Services While Multiply Disabled. (Widener University. March of 2017.)
- Chronic Pain, Disability, Sex, and Kink. (Widener University. March of 2016.)
- Disability and Sex for Providers. (Widener University. March of 2017.)
- Educating Future Doctors About the Realities of Disability. (Georgetown University School of Medicine. November of 2016.)
- Sex and Disability for Medical Students. (George Washington University. August of 2015.)
- Rare Disease Patient Focus Group. (National Institutes of Health. January of 2013.)
- Another significant night in my life when I was fisted. (Sticky Stories: Getting Lucky! March 19, 2021).
- Caz Killjoy’s A Pain In The Ass. (Bawdy Storytelling: Jackpot. July 18, 2020.)
- Caz Killjoy’s A Pain In The Ass. (Sticky Stories: A Very Sticky Send-off: A Benefit for The CSPH. June 26, 2020.)
- Interview in When Language Runs Dry anthology. (Mend My Dress Press, 2020.)
- Art + Essay in Tamara Santibañez‘s anthology, SEXINESS: Rituals, Revisions, and Reconstructions. (Discipline Press, 2018.)
- Penalty Kicked: How Marriage Doesn’t Add Up For Everyone (Bitch. Winter 2016, Issue #69.)
- To the parents raising a child with multiple health conditions (The Mighty. December 19, 2015.)
- Facebook Live with Peter Peterson. (September 23, 2020.)
- How I found myself || sexuality and disability, coming out as disabled, & access creation with Caz. (#Disability Talk with Bethany Stevens, episode #4. September 10, 2020.)
- Making events more accessible, part 2. (Facebook Live in private group. June 23, 2020.)
- Making your Accessibility Statement web page more accessible. (With Cathy of the Intimacy Dojo. June 7, 2020.)
- Making events more accessible: part 1. (Facebook Live in private group. May 21, 2020.)
- Self-employed on a shoestring budget. (Facebook Live with Reid Mihalko. March 24, 2020.)
- Social Distancing and Taking Your Events Virtual During COVID-19. (Facebook Live with Reid Mihalko. March 16, 2020.)
- Interview for the upcoming documentary At Your Cervix. (January 23, 2017.)
- Why Bondage Frees People From Chronic Pain by Monica Karpinski. (Giddy. March 10, 2021.)
- How Practicing Kink Helps Keep People with Disabilities Connected to Their Desires by Emmett Patterson. (The Body. November 23, 2020.)
- Spotlight on: Sex + Disability by The CSPH. (The CSPH. September 8, 2020.)
- My Body Isn’t Made for Sex Anymore: Sex & disability, an exercise in frustration by Allison Wallis. (Gay Magazine. August 13, 2019.)
- How friends, family, and food stamps help this woman with disabilities survive. by Alaina Leary. (Upworthy. October 15, 2018.)
- When Your Mental Health Ruins Your Relationship by Mark Brown. (Shortlist. September 13, 2018.)
- For Disabled Sex Workers, Congress’ Anti-Trafficking Legislation Is Life-Threatening by Cyrée Jarelle Johnson. (Rewire.News. July 12, 2018.)
- Marriage Institutions Aren’t Just Sexist — They’re Ableist And Disrespectful To People With Disabilities by Wendy Lu. (Everyday Feminism. April 16, 2018.)
- We Cannot Ignore the Connection Between Disability and Intimate Partner Abuse by s.e. smith. (Rooted in Rights. February 20, 2018.)
- SEX FILES: Make a date with these 2018 resolutions by Simone Paget. (Toronto Sun. December 29, 2017.)
- How Health Care Costs Keep Me From Getting Married by Laura Kiesel. (GOOD. June 29, 2017.)
- The GOP plan to roll back Medicaid might force more couples to get divorced by Jordan Rosenfeld. (The Washington Post. March 16, 2017.)
- Romping 50 Shades of Grey-Style? Rope in your Doctor by Simone Paget (Toronto Sun. February 21, 2017.)
- Disabled Sexuality: We’re Here, We’re Queer —And We’re Sexy! by Neve Be (Curve. May 15, 2016.)
- When you’re a woman raped by a woman by Caroline Catlin (Broadly. April 18, 2016.)
- Different desires by Neve Be (Curve. March/April 2016 issue.)
- Three MC students receive award from American Association of University Women (Inside MC. May 6, 2014.)
- Maryland struggling with technological problems with online insurance exchange by Lena H. Sun (The Washington Post. November 19, 2013.)
- Food Criticism In D.C. Has A Diversity Problem (The Kojo Nnamdi Show. November 27, 2019.)
- INSIGHT on disABILITY radio show #251 (February 14, 2016.)
- A Closer Look at Mental Health Services (The Kojo Nnamdi Show. November 21, 2013.)
- Sex and Sexuality-Based Violence: A Conversation. (Visions in Feminism Conference, 2002.)
a facilitated conversation
Conversation topics include but are not limited to: GLBTQ issues, intimate partner violence, violence against women, violence against sex workers, harassment of women perceived to be sexually promiscuous, rape, and sadomasochism. Discussion will cover the causes of these acts of violence, personal experiences, the nature of the crimes or consensual acts, the emotional / physical / legal results of the acts and any possible consequences, etc.
- Women and Self-Inflicted Violence Workshop. (Visions in Feminism Conference, 2002.)
co-panel with Erica Smith and Sara Plourde
In an age where social, familial and relationship standards, expectations and attitudes differ between extremes, more and more people are suffering from crippling low self-esteem and self-worth. Share your experiences, hear from others and learn some of the causes, symptoms, and techniques to fight one of the biggest personal problems among women today – self-inflicted violence.
Testimonials are available here.